Funerals & Unveilings

How to Prepare:

Don't let the weight of grief catch you off guard when a loved one passes away. As with all things in life, the better prepared we are for death, the better equipped we will be to deal with the many stressors that accompany this difficult time.

Questions You Should Ask Now:

1) Burial or Cremation?

Judaism allows for both, although burial of a body has typically gained favor for a variety of reasons. Nonetheless, either option exists and you should discuss which is best for your circumstances, beliefs, and concerns.

If you choose burial, you might try to locate a cemetery that fits your criteria and arrange for the purchase of the number of plots you will want to have together. Buying cemetery plots is a legal transfer of deeded land.

2) Where will the ritual take place?

Whether you choose to hold the service in a temple (most congregations require membership), a mortuary chapel, at the graveside, a private home, or somewhere else, make sure you consult with a local funeral home to learn of any legal restrictions regarding the care of the deceased.

If you are planning a “Celebration of Life” for a loved one who has been cremated, there are many additional options that might not be possible when a casket would be present. Discuss with your funeral director or your rabbi to find the best options for your circumstances.

3) Call me.

When the news of a loved one's passing comes, reaching out to a Rabbi is like extending a hand in the darkness. I will be there to guide you through this difficult journey, helping you find solace in your faith among family and friends.

I welcome the opportunity to help you navigate through the challenges of grief. However, if you would like me to be present for your loved one’s funeral service, please be sure to connect with me before scheduling the date, time, and location to ensure my availability.

I am available to discuss many delicate issues that are part of the death/mourning process, including:

• Contacting the mortuary

• Timing: Balancing tradition with practicality

• The casket and clothing

• Who are the mourners?

• Ways of honoring the deceased

• What prayers are recited at the funeral

• The closed casket

• Death of a child

• Choosing pallbearers

• Mourning Ribbons

• Learning the Mourner's Kaddish

• Do we need to filling the grave?

• Should children attend the funerals?

• Shiva: Yes? No? For how many days?

• The Meal of Condolence

In moments of loss, remember that you are not alone. Together, we will honor tradition, cherish memories, and navigate the path of grief with compassion, strength, and grace.

For an Unveiling

The unveiling ceremony is a continuation of our remembrance, a moment to gather at the gravesite to reveal the headstone and pay tribute to the departed soul.

Throughout the unveiling ritual, I will create a space for reflection, connection, and shared support as you move forward with your cherished memories.